Holiday Dating – How to Break Up During the Holidays

>> Monday, December 13, 2010

A couple of weeks ago, I posted about whether it's okay or not to break up during the holidays. Basically, a lot of us would rather wait till after New Year's Day to break up with someone simply because we don't want to seem heartless or unkind. A lot of us also don't want to deal with the hassles of being newly single during the holidays. But then again, it is always better to be true to yourself rather than pretend you're not miserable just because it's the holidays.

Now here is an interesting article I found at Match.com on how to get the ugly deed done without being seen as the Grinch who stole Christmas. I totally agree with what the writer said:

No matter how wrong the relationship is, nobody wants to be a Scrooge. You can reduce the negative impact by channeling the spirit of the season: Do unto others.

Channeling the Spirit of the Season

If you're going to break up with someone during the holidays, you might as well be kind and do it in the spirit of the holidays. After all, even the insensitive types have feelings, too. They can be hurt with this development especially when they didn't see it coming.

Breaking up should also be done as gently as possible. As Ms. Lester said in her article, try to avoid turning the whole ordeal into some kind of blaming game. If your soon-to-be ex asks why, just say it's you who has the problem and leave it at that. You have better chances of parting amiably if you manage to avoid the blaming game.

Timing Is Everything

Ms. Lester said in her article that location is everything when it comes to breaking up during the holidays. I'd like to add that timing is everything, too. If you're really not happy about the relationship and you believe that it's best to break up, just do it as soon as possible. It would be kind of awkward if you're going to break your soon-to-be ex's heart right after you find out that he or she has already bought you a Christmas present or has already accepted invitations addressed to the two of you in your behalf.

Breaking up during the holidays doesn't have to be an ugly ordeal. If you do it gently and kindly, you and your soon-to-be ex can part as friends and not ruin each other's holidays.

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